Ten Steps To Forward The Action In Your Life

Photo by M. Arloski Glendalough, Ireland
Photo by M. Arloski
Glendalough, Ireland

In the coaching process we listen, clarify and help our clients explore their lives, taking stock of their current life situation and health status. Eventually we have to go beyond our basic listening skills, summarizing and helping our client get very clear about where they currently are. At that point we help them get clear about what they are ready to do (referencing all we know about readiness for change theory) (http://www.umbc.edu/psyc/habits/content/the_model/) and we boldly ask them what they are willing to do. 

In listening to recordings of some of my mentor coaching clients I’ve realized that many new coaches struggle with what we call “forwarding the action”. If all a coach does is summarize, paraphrase, empathize, and reflect the client often continues to tell their story and stay wrapped up in it. One of the most powerful things that coaches do for people is to help them realize that they are not their story! They are much more.

Powerful questions challenge a client to look at things in new ways, to develop new perspectives and try on new ways to frame an old problem. Coaches can still be “client-centered” but share their own perspective on what the client is saying, pointing out observations, helping the client recognize patterns. At some point we ask “What’s one small thing you can do to make progress on that?” or “What’s one small step you can take between now and the next time we talk to work on that?”

Whether we are a coach acting as an ally in the growth process with our client, helping them move forward with their lives, or an individual whose own growth demands some “forward momentum” here are my

Top Ten Ways To Forward The Action

1. Contemplate Well
“Thinking about change” does not necessarily mean you are stuck. We may need to reflect deeper about an anticipated change. Ideally we may use three different methods that help us explore more completely: 1) thinking about it by ourselves; 2) writing about it – which often yields very different insights since we are drawing upon a different part of our brain; and 3) talking about it with someone else such as a coach.

Inadequate contemplation/exploration/research often yields pre-mature goal setting and usually results in failure. Talking it through is important, but of course this wears out its usefulness at some point. If you think you continually need to know more before you act, ask yourself. When will I know that I know enough?

2. Never Make A Decision Just To Relieve Anxiety

This is a phrase I developed in my years of work as a psychotherapist and it’s a good maxim to follow. Research shows that we make 60% of our decisions based on emotion, not logic. Remember that lemon of a sports car your bought on stylish looks alone? When making decisions about how to move forward with our lives we need to acknowledge the emotions, maybe even process them more, but temper them with our rational thinking. This is easier said than done and another argument for processing it with others, such as our coach.

3. Distinguish Between Cautious Wisdom And Gremlin TalkTaming Your Gremlin cover

There is a part of us that has our best interests at heart. This part can caution us to consider changes carefully, to hold back sometimes until we have all the facts. That part is a friend to be listened to. The inner-critic or so-called Gremlin, is not. This part of us is the home of our self-doubt, all our self-recrimination, and in fact is the accumulation of all the untrue statements about ourselves that we, and others, have made throughout our years. If we listen to the Gremlin we will never grow. Maintaining the status quo is the Gremlin’s full-time job so change, even wonderful improvements, is its enemy.

Listen carefully to your self-talk. Distinguish between being cautious and being negative. Does it sound like familiar old recordings being played again? Is your Gremlin hitting you with hurtful thoughts about how you don’t deserve a better life? Or is your self-talk simply asking you to examine your contemplated changes carefully and go forward with your eyes wide open?

4. Link To Motivation By Beginning With The End In Mind

Stephen Covey’s second habit of his Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People (https://www.stephencovey.com/7habits/7habits.php), “Begin With The End In Mind”, helps us remember to start our journey with the destination clearly in mind. Coaches are rightfully notorious for asking “What would it look like…?” Instead of how will I solve the problem or overcome the barriers (which is often where we stay stuck) get clear about what you really want. Visualize, fantasize, imagine, dream. It’s all good.

Align that visualization with your values, with how you really want your life to be. We are talking about you changing your life so you can live in that healthier, more self-actualizing way for the rest of your entire life. Take the time to get clear about “what’s possible”.

Connect a motivational link by seeing how even the smallest action step you take is helping you achieve the goals you have that are part of you living your best life possible, the life that you have imagined. This puts purpose behind even the most mundane action step.

5. Anticipate The Roadblocks And Strategize Through Them

It’s easy to hold ourselves back by fearing the potential consequences of making change happen. Better not to stir the pot. Unfortunately not to decide is to decide. We usually know that our efforts at improving our lives will be met with support from some corners and resistance from others. Anticipate the highly probable negative reactions you may see and come up with effective strategies for how to respond. Anticipate some of the practical barriers like costs, time schedules, etc. You may want to communicate your intentions behind your new ways of behaving proactively to pre-empt potential conflicts. Here is where working with a coach can be so valuable as you work together developing new strategies to insure success.

When you're ready, go for it!
When you’re ready, go for it!

6. Take On The Challenge

Words matter. We may do ourselves a great disservice by dismissing semantics. Reframe your “problems”, barriers, obstacles, diseases, and diagnoses, as challenges. Improving your life, your lifestyle, your wellbeing may be daunting but see it as a challenge that, with the help of others, you are up for!

I always teach coaches that they can challenge a client more when their relationship with them is strong. It’s about conveying your belief in them, in their abilities, capacity, talents, and character. From the individual’s point of view it’s a combination of remembering these qualities and staying around positive and supportive people. This is not a time for hanging out with “dream drainers” and pessimists.

7. Experiment!

It’s easier to “go for it” when we lessen the risk involved. Most of the risk comes at us in terms of our own fear of failure. Adopting an “experimental attitude” allows us to frame our attempt as less risky when we are not putting our entire self-worth on the line. If it doesn’t work we go back to the drawing board. It was an experiment. How can we tweak the experiment to get better results next time? That’s all.

The word “try” or “trying” gets a bad rap from some motivational speakers. “Just do it! Don’t try!” Certainly a half-hearted “Well, I’ll try, if I have to, I guess” is most likely doomed to failure. Yet, I’ve had a number of clients really take to the idea of “trying” something enthusiastically, and yet because they were “trying” it seemed like there was less at risk. They were willing to “try”. One might think of it like trying on a piece of clothing. There is no need for a commitment “to buy”, just see how it fits, how it works for you.

8. Write It Downjournaling

Think it. Dream it. Speak it. Write it down! When we look back over our shoulders at our lives we start to realize that most of the ideas that we birthed and brought to fruition were things that we finally wrote down. Nurturing our thoughts into action works best when we get them outside of our heads. Ideally it begins when we start saying it out loud to others and then when we actually write it down, even if we show no one else, we’ve made a commitment to ourselves. It gets real.

In coaching this is where writing out action plans, wellness plans, business plans, funnel all of our thoughts and ideas into a focused reality. We have a map. We’re actually going to get somewhere!

9. Track it!

Trackers find what they are looking for. Forwarding the action doesn’t just mean getting started. It means knowing where you are on the trail. Coaches ask their clients “How will you know when you are being successful?” Well, I guess I’ll have to keep track of what I’m doing.

It’s always astonished me how often I get a negative answer when I have asked a wellness coaching client if they have ever kept track of their behavior (activity level, what they are eating, any biometric markers, etc.). Never thought of it. People try to make changes with revved up will power, lots of effort and sometimes little else. If they try to keep track of their efforts in their head it almost always becomes a muddle of uncertainty and usually results in abandoning the change process. Use phone apps or even a simple wall calendar but don’t deceive yourself, track it! Seal the deal with accountability to yourself and perhaps strengthen that by sharing that accountability with a coach.

10. Refresh Your Efforts.

Most folks will tell you that maintaining change is the hardest part. The real challenge is usually staying consistent and on your plan for the long run. It’s the smoker getting beyond the point of constant craving. It’s the weight-loss client maintaining through the dreaded plateau phase. It’s any of us staying with our wellness self-care when stress amps up in our lives.

One important part of maintaining action is to refresh it often. Are we following through on the actions we’ve committed to? If not do we need to “Reset, Re-commit or Shift” ? Perhaps we need to reset the frequency of our actions, less walks in one week or perhaps shorter ones. We may choose to re-commit to our existing action steps for another week, or maybe it’s time to shift to entirely new and different actions.

Refreshing may also include adding a greater dose of fun into the mix. Ditch the treadmill and head outdoors for a walk/run every time you can. Perhaps adding a social aspect, including others, will make it easier to get out bike riding, hiking, or walking. A Mediterranean cooking class might be just the thing to recommit to healthier eating and adding the skills to do it easily.

Beach runnerForward Momentum

Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary has a great definition of momentum. Think of this in terms of getting things moving in your life.

the strength or force that something has when it is moving
: the strength or force that allows something to continue or to grow stronger or faster as time passes
physics: the property that a moving object has due to its mass and its motion

(http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/momentum)

With this definition it seems that improving our lives, our lifestyles is all about number one, getting things moving. This is what allows our efforts to gather strength, to gather force. Once moving it will grow stronger over time and essentially take on an energy of its own that is self-sustaining. Physics and psychology seem to complement each other here. Overcoming inertia (objects at rest tend to stay at rest), beating our stuckness, vanquishing our self-doubt, finding the support that bolsters our confidence and accepting the challenge seems to get us moving. Having a clear destination helps us set our course. Then once we are on our path with clear direction and a plan, our movement gets easier and easier (objects in motion tend to stay in motion). Now we’re getting somewhere!

Ten Ways To Coach Through Barriers To Change – Part Two – Inner Barriers To Lifestyle Improvement – II by Dr. Michael Arloski.

"It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves." Sir Edmund Hillary (Photo by M. Arloski - all rights reserved)

6. Practice Extreme Self-Care

Many times coaches and clients co-create a wonderful set of self-care action steps that the client knows will help them to be healthier and well. Then, on the next coaching appointment, the client confesses that they held back from doing almost all of the actions agreed upon. The coaching conversation then reveals that the client would not give themselves permission to engage in such self-oriented behaviors. Another belief system item that wellness coaches, especially, deal with all the time is a lack of self-permission and way too much self-denial. Stemming back to a lifetime of learning such beliefs create guilt and the misperception that taking time and doing anything good for oneself is “selfish” and wrong. Even though your client may say and believe (intellectually) that taking time to exercise, get more sleep, and eat well are critically important, they may find themselves reluctant to actually follow through and do these behaviors because they just don’t feel right at a deeper level. Many terrific wellness plans fail right here.

We can help our clients to increase self-permission by helping them examine these beliefs and how they adopted them. We can help them look at how realistic they really are, especially in light of the client’s whole life. Are they valuing self-denial to the point where it is harming their health? It may feel “extreme” for them to begin to do even the smallest things for themselves, but we can support and acknowledge their efforts at even small steps for self-care.

Recovery and self-care can take many forms.

7. Regenerate Through Recovery

A number one challenge wellness coaching clients continually face is having enough time for wellness. Often their attempts at “time management” go nowhere. Perhaps it’s time to think in terms of “energy management”. In books like The Way We’re Working Isn’t Working and The Power of Full Engagement (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tony-schwartz/the-way-were-working-isnt_b_574039.html) we find a reaffirmation that pushing people to work too long with not enough sleep and with insufficient resources is not sustainable or even profitable. Once again, we recognize the need for balance, for what these authors call “sufficient volume and intensity of recovery” from the stress we are under. Hopefully such books will encourage work environments to wake up and restore some sense of balance to the workplace but until then it begins within the individual. Often out of fear, our clients push continually in totally unsustainable fashion and end up being less productive, and less well. Another internal barrier here can be irrational beliefs that they are only worthwhile and Okay as a human being when they are being productive.

Working with self-permission, helping our clients to break through their fears and realize that the person who has more recovery time is, in fact, more productive, efficient and creative, we can help them create sustainable ways to attain work/life balance.

8. Progress With A Plan

When wellness coaching proceeds without a co-created wellness plan the tendency is to throw together a cluster of goals and attempt to follow through on them. The danger is that a lack of structure can lead to confusion, inconsistency, wandering off on tangents, and a loss of momentum and motivation. Internal barriers to the whole coaching process can arise out of a sense of confusion, uncertainty, lack of clarity about direction, progress and roles. Lasting lifestyle change is not just a bunch of goal setting and pumping up will-power. Proceed with a plan.

9. Acknowledge And Affirm

Client motivation often suffers from a perceived lack of progress, yet clients often do not give themselves adequate credit for what they have actually achieved. Recognize and acknowledge progress of any kind and any size. You are not so much praising your client as you are encouraging them to praise themselves and acknowledge their progress. Acknowledge the actions and the aspects of their character that “showed up” to bring that action forward. They may even benefit from an exercise of writing down three self-acknowledgments a day. Don’t downplay the level of challenge a client may be facing. Affirm their reality and their experience. Yet keep the responsibility for change on the client. When they speak of barriers (either internal or external) that came up, ask them “How did you allow that to hold you back?”

10. Make It Mindfull

Many internal barriers come from a state of internal anxiety, stress, fear, and confusion. Whatever calms the body/mind/spirit is going to help us lower those barriers. Encouraging our clients to include practices that help them become more centered, more calm, and more focused will help lead them to greater peace within. Most decisions are made on an emotional rather than strictly logical basis (some say 60%). If we are anxious, stressed, worried, and even physically tight, we can misinterpret what our body is telling us and decide not to be active, eat well or connect with others when it is exactly what we need the most. Honoring the values and culture of our clients we can help them explore ways of relaxing and centering that are congruent for them.

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Ten Ways To Coach Through Barriers To Change – Part Two – Inner Barriers To Lifestyle Improvement – I by Dr. Michael Arloski.

So often times it happens that we live our lives in chains And we never even know we have the key. (The Eagles - "Already Gone")

Your client has their motivation to be healthy and well energized, they’ve checked out their readiness for improving their lifestyle and, perhaps, with your help, they’ve even gotten a real wellness plan lined out. So, what is getting in their way of taking action and living that healthy lifestyle? Chances are they will encounter some external barriers like schedule changes, lack of support from folks they counted on at home or at work, increased workload, etc. While we can work with them to strategize ways over, under, around and through those, the more insidious barriers can be internal in nature.

What holds us back from succeeding at lasting lifestyle change is often as much an internal challenge as it can be external factors. (See our previous post- https://realbalancewellness.wordpress.com/2011/01/06/ten-ways-to-coach-through-barriers-to-change-–-part-one-–-outer-barriers-to-lifestyle-improvement-by-dr-michael-arloski/) Our own beliefs about ourselves, and the world around us, as well as issues of self-esteem, self-doubt, and self-efficacy, may determine our progress and success. We can all be our own worst enemy without even knowing it.

There are libraries full of evidence that our lifestyle choices do indeed affect our health both in terms of prevention and in terms of the course of an illness. (e.g. http://www.acpm.org) Yet, as we know belief is not a simple matter of logic and facts.

1. Address Belief Systems.

Coaching is not consulting so we aren’t just telling our clients they “need” to change their belief systems. Our clients come to coaching with their own values, priorities, and ways of thinking about the way the world works. Coaches honor that. It doesn’t mean, however, we can’t challenge ways of thinking that are self-defeating. Instead of labeling certain thoughts and the resultant behaviors as “SDB’s” (self-defeating behaviors), we need to help our clients examine them. This might best start with a request for clarification “Tell me more about that.” Then the classic “How’s that working for your?” question hopefully jogs our clients into some insight about how self-defeating such thinking really is.

Another barrier to growth and change is when our clients are less than clear about what they truly value, or are living out of accordance with their values. Helping our clients to clarify their values is a huge service that the coaching process provides. Belief systems have deep familial, cultural and experiential roots that aren’t easily ripped from the ground, and shouldn’t be. Our job as coach is to continually facilitate a process of self-examination in our clients and honor their own pace and choices about change. This process continues with all of the remaining ways through inner-barriers we will look at here.

2. Defy Self-Deception

When we don’t understand the motivation of ourselves, or others, we often fill in the blanks with assumptions. When those assumptions are based on fears we are especially vulnerable to deceiving ourselves. If a co-worker interacts with me curtly I might assume that they don’t want to be around me, that they think less of me, or perhaps believe that my job performance is sub-par and they want to only be minimally associated with me. I might then start avoiding interactions with them. This is what the authors at The Arbinger Institute call “self-betrayal”. In their marvelous book Leadership and Self-Deception (http://www.arbinger.com/en/home.html), they take on the very challenging task of helping us see what is invisible to us; the ways that our thinking betrays us leading to false conclusions about ourselves, and those around us. Self-betrayal leads to self-deception. Helping our clients to catch themselves when they are basing their perceptions of the world (and themselves) on judgments, prejudices, assumptions, projections and inadequate information can help them shift to not only greater compassion towards self and others, but to more accuracy as well.

3. Build Self- Esteem & Self-Efficacy

When it comes to being successful at losing weight, managing our stress, quitting smoking, etc., your client can start with two questions for themselves: Can I really affect my own health and am I worth it? Psychologist Wayne Dyer is fond of saying “You’ll see it when you believe it.” This is indeed a matter of belief. Do you believe that all of these efforts to improve your lifestyle are going to make any difference in your health (self-efficacy)? Is the effort worth it, and am I worth the effort? The two questions go hand in hand. People who are successful at lifestyle improvement are able to answer “Yes!” to these questions. A “No.” or even a “Maybe.” says that your work needs to start right here.

How “Okay” I feel about myself may have some very deep roots but unearthing them may not be as necessary as you might think. Helping your client to build confidence in themselves and their wellness efforts starts with selecting goals that are the easiest to attain and letting success build on success. Support them as they experiment to attain more mastery in their world. They can increase their probability of success by working with an ally (like you) instead of, once again, attempting it by oneself. They will also, of course, be more successful with an actual plan instead of just launching a single action step effort. Encourage them to seek out experiences that allow you to engage in creative self-expression, another know booster of self-esteem. Build it in to their wellness plan.

4. Gag The Gremlin

Tied into progress at building self-esteem and self-efficacy is being vigilant about keeping our self-doubt and excessive self-criticism at bay. It seems that the little negative voice that whispers inside your ear gets activated whenever you attempt a change. In chapter eight of my book Wellness Coaching For Lasting Lifestyle Change (http://www.wholeperson.com/x-trainer/coach.html) I take the reader through the process of learning about their own way of being self-critical and how to combat it. The Inner Critic or “Gremlin” is really that part of us that has internalized falsehoods about us and these thought patterns bring forth our self-doubt and hold us back from action and success. Psychologist Rick Carson’s little book Taming Your Gremlin (http://tamingyourgremlin.com/) is found to be so valuable by many coaches that they often include a copy in their client Welcome Packets.

How do you keep yourself from taking flight and soaring?

5. Fly With The Eagles (So The Turkeys Won’t Get You Down)

There is no doubt that Peer Health Norms are a huge factor in our lifestyle choices. It is hard to go against the grain all the time and be the only one in our family, group of friends, or workplace who is consciously attempting to live a healthy wellness lifestyle. Albert Bandura talks about “vicarious experiences provided by social models” as an effective way that we can develop self-efficacy. Certainly being around others who are more physically active, eat well, share feelings more easily and value connectedness and seeing their success, will make it easier for us to engage in such similar behaviors.

Our coaching challenge arises when our client is faced with the incongruity of a personal desire to change and an environment that discourages it. We can help our clients by A) encouraging them to ask for the help they need. Support them in having honest conversations with their peers about their intentions to change and their desired goals. Help them enlist support. We can also B) help them build a support network of people who are living more wellness-oriented lives. This may need to be a conscious part of their wellness plan. When our clients face either a lack of support or even push-back from their peers we can help them C) process their feelings about this and develop strategies for dealing with it.

Dr. Arloski will be presenting a Free Webinar on this topic, Feb. 23, 2011.  The recording will be archived Feb. 25th and be available at http://www.realbalance.com.

Part Two (#6-10) of this piece will be posted in a few days. We invite your comments!


Ten Ways To Coach Through Barriers To Change – Part One – Outer Barriers To Lifestyle Improvement by Dr. Michael Arloski.

Even the best wellness plans encounter barriers.

A key part of effective coaching is helping our clients to find a way over, under, around and through the barriers that get between them and their goals. The best-laid wellness plans are inevitably challenged by some combination of “life getting in the way”, lack of environmental support, or sometimes even the “push-back” resistance from peers.

The other side of this coin are the “internal barriers” that also block our progress. These are composed of our personal belief systems, values, and self-talk, including the “inner critic” or “gremlin” talk that sabotages our efforts at change. We will address the internal barriers in a later article.

We’ve all seen the efforts of clients, family and friends derailed when a source of stress arises, there is a break in routine, a spouse or partner objects to them using time for self-care, families rebel against dietary changes, etc. Someone’s workload increases, money gets tight, an aging parent’s health worsens, and the person resumes smoking, drops their healthy eating habits, increases their amount of sedentary activity and so forth. When attempting lifestyle improvement alone this is when progress halts or even regresses.

When a person is working with their wellness coach this is where support, creativity, strategic thinking and real fun comes into the coaching process. Let’s look at how the wellness coach can employ various skills and strategies to help their client create lifestyle change that lasts.

Start with your strengths!

1. Use a strengths-based, positive psychology approach. Approaching a challenge to change with the usual “What’s wrong and how can we fix it?” style is kind of like asking a “Why?” question. The usual response is… “I don’t know.” Instead take complete inventory of the situation first getting a very accurate picture of “what is”. The effective wellness coach will draw upon earlier foundational work with their client and bring forth the strengths that the client has that they can make use of in meeting this particular challenge. For example, one client of mine was in a great rehabilitative exercise program for her surgically repaired knee when “life happened”. Remembering how she had earlier described meeting other scheduling challenges at work with great flexibility and creativity, I challenged her to use those same attributes to deal with her new dilemma. Her energy surged and she came up with a solution that got her back on track.
2. Process the feelings behind the challenge. While this might be considered part of the “internal work” that we’ll focus on later, most coaches find that it is hard to come up with a new strategic solution without addressing the emotions that charge the situation. Once the client has had a change to share in a safe and accepting (nonjudgmental) relationship how they are frustrated, disappointed, resentful, angry, sad, etc., they can more clearly assess their circumstances and face the challenge with more ability to see different options.
3. Employ strategic thinking. In chapter nine of Wellness Coaching For Lasting Lifestyle Change I elaborate on many strategies for helping clients face challenges to their own lifestyle improvement. Help your client consider options based upon their own values and their “true priorities”. Is delegation a useful strategy in this case and what is already keeping the client from implementing it? Help them run their time-demanding challenges through the classic urgent-important matrix. Help them answer the critical question of “Who is responsible for what?” Use your different perspective to help your client look at their challenges from a new angle instead of simply recommending solutions from your own vantage point.
4. Don’t “jump to solution”, use readiness for change theory. As you and your client come up with ideas of what action to take, slow down. While it may seem like powerful coaching to request action early and often, it too frequently ends up leading to premature moves that fail. When it comes to this specific behavioral change, this specific challenge to it, what is your client ready to do? Do they need further contemplation? More information and preparation? Or are they ready to take action of some sort?
5. Co-create a plan with an “experimental” attitude. Working together with your client, come up with a plan of action that is concrete, realistic and attainable. Encourage them to look at the steps they take to deal with their challenge as an “experiment”, not as a total success or total failure type of risk.
6. Link action steps with motivation to be well. Help your client affirm that they are taking these steps in order to pursue their own health and wellness. Help them get back in touch with their vision of being healthy and well and what is motivating them to engage in these wellness efforts.

Sometimes you just have to "go for it"!

7. Congruent, but not necessarily comfortable. The goals your client is shooting for and the actions they are taking to get there must be congruent with their own values. However, nobody ever said anything about it having to be entirely comfortable! Most real growth and the facing of most difficult challenges takes place out there on that uncomfortable edge. Encourage your client to draw upon their own strength, courage and endurance to persevere and succeed.
8. Help your client succeed by helping them be accountable to themselves. The fundamental coaching process of accountability ensures that barriers are faced, plans followed through on, and efforts maintained.
9. Coach For Connectedness. From the beginning of the process build greater connectedness. Who can the client reach out to for help, additional accountability and support in their efforts? Once again going it alone may not be the best strategy. Help your client process their resistance to asking for help. Make this part of the plan throughout. Many of the barriers our clients face are interpersonal ones. Coach them around ways to communicate more effectively, create agreements with others (rather than have assumptions and expectations), and be clear about what they have control over and what they do not.
10. Celebrate success. Acknowledge and affirm your client’s success and help them deal with continued setbacks. Provide support and help them “give themselves credit” for what they are doing to improve their lives.

In the next article in this series we will look at the internal barriers that get in the way when we attempt lifestyle improvement.

Dr. Arloski will be hosting a Free Webinar on this topic Wednesday, Jan. 26th (12:00-12:30 pm EST). Space is limited, register now! E-mail Deborah@realbalance.com , 1-866-568-4702 toll free.